When you are pregnant, suddenly everyone feels entitled to offer their ‘advice’. Most of the time it is well-intentioned but it can be a bit intimidating as first time parents. I remember being told to ‘Sleep when the baby sleeps!’ and that turned out to be impossible to do safely as Freddie would only nap in the sling/on me until we did some nap training at seven months old.
In my experience, a lot of the advice is completely useless! However there are a few things that I was told, that I agree with and I think you should listen to.
THEY GROW UP TOO FAST
When you are pregnant, once you’ve had your baby, when your baby is about to turn one, you will hear this all the time. And it can get irritating but now that I am a mum, I wholeheartedly agree. Time has never flown by as quickly as it has since the moment Freddie was placed in my arms. I can’t talk about this too much because Freddie turns one in a month and I am so emotional. Just know that it is true. It really is.
IF YOU’RE NOT GOOD WITH BABIES, IT’S DIFFERENT ONCE THEY’RE YOUR OWN.
G really wanted me to include this because it was something he was told a lot by relatives, colleagues and strangers. He felt very apprehensive about becoming a Dad but after having Freddie, he says this is absolutely true. If you are worrying about your lack of experience with babies, please don’t. When your very own little person arrives, it will feel very different.
CATCH UP ON SLEEP WHILE YOU CAN
I think hearing this comment probably annoyed me the most when I was pregnant. As if it is possible to stockpile sleep? However, I agree with this now but in a bit of a different way. I wish I had cherished those final lie ins, those early nights and the lazy naps on the sofa during my maternity leave. After a particularly bad night I literally dream of cosying up on the sofa for a long nap.
IT GET’S EASIER
During my pregnancy, I found hearing this piece of advice really hard. It made me feel incredibly anxious about becoming a Mum because it made it sound like it was going to be so awful. Being a parent definitely isn’t awful, but it is hard. Especially at the beginning because it is such a big adjustment. However please know that however hard it is, I would go through every difficult moment a thousand times over for every cuddle, milestone and memory. It is hard, but it does get easier.
Did you receive any unwanted parenting advice that turned out to be true? I would love to know!
Thanks for reading and see you on Friday,
P I N M E