MY PARENTING REGRETS | HONEST MOTHERHOOD

MY PARENTING REGRETS | HONEST MOTHERHOOD

In life I think it is important to look forward rather than back. However I think I learn the most from things I have gone through that have been challenging or I wish I had done differently.

I’ve compiled my five parenting regrets, some are trivial and some are more serious. If you feel comfortable sharing, I would love to know if you can relate to any of these.

STAYED IN THE NEWBORN BUBBLE A WHILE LONGER

I wish I had been a bit firmer about not having relatives (aside from my mum and sisters) over so soon after Freddie was born. I think I had visitors the day after we came home from the hospital and I really regret that now. I was sore and very emotional because I was still processing what had been a somewhat dramatic birth. I was also trying to get to grips with breastfeeding and I felt so uncomfortable. Next time, I am going to be firmer and allow myself more time to recover before opening up our home to visitors.

NOT SPLASHED OUT ON AN EXPENSIVE SWING

We bought a second hand 4Moms mamaRoo when Freddie was around three months old. I was hoping it would allow me to put Freddie down and have some time to myself. Although I think it is a great piece of kit, I think it works best when introduced straight after baby was born. By the time we got it, Freddie just wasn’t interested in snoozing in it so it was a waste of money for us.

PAID LESS ATTENTION TO THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS

I think this is something that every new mum goes through! There have been multiple times during the last year where I have allowed other people’s opinions to make me doubt my own. Every parenting choice I have made has been right for Freddie and I, so I want to be a bit firmer when unwanted opinions/advice are shared.

THE DUMMY

A bit of a trivial one, but I really wish I had introduced a dummy sooner. I was scared off by the worry of ‘nipple confusion’ but Freddie was such a sucky baby and I think he would have benefited from one during the early months. Especially as it turned out that he had Silent Reflux and a dummy would have helped to soothe the pain!

ATTENDED MORE SUPPORT GROUPS/ANTENATAL CLASSES

I did NCT Classes prior to Freddie’s birth and had a mixed experience. With hindsight, I wish I had done the NHS Classes as it would have given me more of an opportunity to meet mums in my local area. I also wish I had attended the local breastfeeding support group to meet other breastfeeding mums. Sadly, our local Children’s Centres were in the midst of shutting down/changing over which made it hard to keep track of my local groups.

Do you have any parenting regrets or do any of the above resonate with you? I would love to know!

Thanks for reading and see you on Friday,

Amy

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4 Comments

  1. Tasha January 23, 2018 / 11:03 pm

    Absolutely love this post, one thing I wish I can stop worrying about is the opinions of others, It’s so hard sometimes. But like you said I know the choices I’ve made are right for myself and my son but I struggle with that niggling doubt (unfortunately).
    Anyway, love reading your blog posts xxx

    • Amy Jane January 24, 2018 / 9:37 am

      It really is! I think parenting is such a personal thing so it is really hard not to take things personally isn’t it? Especially when it is something I am doubting myself about it anyway. Thank you lovely! It means a lot that you enjoy reading them Xxx

  2. Louise February 2, 2018 / 9:05 am

    Can I ask when you introduced a dummy? I’ve just given in and bought one for Heston (he’s terrible at night and nap time unless the boob is right next to him!!)He’s the first one I’ve felt needed a dummy would it work to only use it at nap times/ bed time as I don’t want to have to rely on it all day?! Even a mum of 4 needs advice xx
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    • Amy Jane February 5, 2018 / 7:59 am

      Hi Louise,

      I think I phrased that bit slightly wrong! He doesn’t have a dummy, I left it too late and then I tried to introduce it for a month or so and he just wouldn’t take any of the various brands! Next time, I will introduce one far sooner because Freddie is very similar with the boob! I can’t really advise but many of my friends use them at just nap and bedtime as a bit of a sleep association too! I’m sure that would be fine xx

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