In life I think it is important to look forward rather than back. However I think I learn the most from things I have gone through that have been challenging or I wish I had done differently.
I’ve compiled my five parenting regrets, some are trivial and some are more serious. If you feel comfortable sharing, I would love to know if you can relate to any of these.
STAYED IN THE NEWBORN BUBBLE A WHILE LONGER
I wish I had been a bit firmer about not having relatives (aside from my mum and sisters) over so soon after Freddie was born. I think I had visitors the day after we came home from the hospital and I really regret that now. I was sore and very emotional because I was still processing what had been a somewhat dramatic birth. I was also trying to get to grips with breastfeeding and I felt so uncomfortable. Next time, I am going to be firmer and allow myself more time to recover before opening up our home to visitors.
NOT SPLASHED OUT ON AN EXPENSIVE SWING
We bought a second hand 4Moms mamaRoo when Freddie was around three months old. I was hoping it would allow me to put Freddie down and have some time to myself. Although I think it is a great piece of kit, I think it works best when introduced straight after baby was born. By the time we got it, Freddie just wasn’t interested in snoozing in it so it was a waste of money for us.
PAID LESS ATTENTION TO THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS
I think this is something that every new mum goes through! There have been multiple times during the last year where I have allowed other people’s opinions to make me doubt my own. Every parenting choice I have made has been right for Freddie and I, so I want to be a bit firmer when unwanted opinions/advice are shared.
A bit of a trivial one, but I really wish I had introduced a dummy sooner. I was scared off by the worry of ‘nipple confusion’ but Freddie was such a sucky baby and I think he would have benefited from one during the early months. Especially as it turned out that he had Silent Reflux and a dummy would have helped to soothe the pain!
ATTENDED MORE SUPPORT GROUPS/ANTENATAL CLASSES
I did NCT Classes prior to Freddie’s birth and had a mixed experience. With hindsight, I wish I had done the NHS Classes as it would have given me more of an opportunity to meet mums in my local area. I also wish I had attended the local breastfeeding support group to meet other breastfeeding mums. Sadly, our local Children’s Centres were in the midst of shutting down/changing over which made it hard to keep track of my local groups.
Do you have any parenting regrets or do any of the above resonate with you? I would love to know!
Thanks for reading and see you on Friday,