On my Instagram this week, I shared about my struggle to make friends at the baby class Freddie and I attend. I was completely overwhelmed by the number of other Mama’s that messaged me to share that they have felt the same way. Motherhood can be really lonely and it can be really hard to form more meaningful friendships. However now that Freddie is older, I really want to prioritise putting myself out there more.
I am definitely not an expert but I thought it might be useful to share six ways to feel less lonely, in the hope that it might help you if you are feeling the same way!
MUM FRIEND APPS
Somedays I barely have enough time to eat, so apps where I can connect with other mums from the comfort of my own home are really appealing. I have yet to meet another Mum from the ‘Mush’ app but I am going to try messaging nearby Mums in the hope of arranging a coffee! I was also introduced to the ‘Peanut’ app which I am looking forward to trying.
Freddie and I have loved Baby Sensory although he is a little old for it now but the class is quite large which has made it harder to start conversations. I think local classes and sessions at the library would be a better way to get to know other mum’s in a more intimate setting.
Of course, real life friendships are important but I have formed many friendships with lovely Mama’s I have met via my blog and Instagram. This has led to some real life play dates too which is lovely. Sometimes, you just want to know that you are not alone and I find the following hashtags useful for connecting with likeminded mums: #mumlife, #acupofmotherhood #motherhoodunplugged and #honestmotherhood.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE EVERYDAY
I know this is hard when your baby is really young! However I have found that even just a short conversation with the cashier at Tesco or with someone cooing over Freddie makes me feel much less lonely.
I appreciate this might be tricky but volunteering with a local baby group would be a great way to meet other Mama’s. This is something I wish I had done earlier as helping to run a group would make it much easier to start conversations!
START A CLASS JUST FOR YOU
Meeting other Mum’s is definitely important but I think we can sometimes lose ourselves a little bit after having a baby. I recently shared some ways to carve out some me-time as a Mum. I think starting a class or something just for ourselves is a great way to connect with people who have similar interests. I am hoping to start a course as a breastfeeding supporter which I think will be a good way to meet new people. Something like starting a yoga class or anything else that interests you would work too!
If you are feeling lonely right now, please know that we have all felt this way at one point. After sharing on Instagram, I have realised how many other Mums have felt worried about making new friends and it has made me feel more determined to approach people. I’ll let you know how I get on!
Thanks for reading and see you on Wednesday,
P I N M E