Motherhood is a funny, old thing. In one way it makes us fearless, protective and strong but the self doubt can be crippling sometimes and I think it is important to acknowledge that. We all doubt ourselves – well at least I hope so and I’m not just speaking for myself here! I thought I would share the six honest questions I have asked myself, can you relate to any of these?
Having had a much more settled last few months where I have felt more confident in my parenting choices and that I really do know my baby best, I have been reflecting on some of the things that were said to me as a new mum. The majority of family, friends and complete strangers were overwhelmingly supportive but I did have a few experiences that were completely rude, unnecessary or thoughtless and from talking to other new mums (and reading other blogs/social media!) I know I am not alone. Here are then things not to say to a new mum- I would love to hear if you can relate to any of these!
I spent the first few months of Freddie’s life in survival mode. He was quite an unhappy, little baby with Silent Reflux tainting quite a lot of our time together. I was hanging on for the magical three-month mark when every book, blog and person had told me that things would suddenly get easier. And then they didn’t. Of course I loved Freddie as soon as I met him, all tiny and wrinkly and brand new. Of course we had many special moments together where I laughed and snuggled him and I felt- and still do feel- like the luckiest Mama in the world. But for those first few months, I found motherhood a real struggle and when it wasn’t suddenly easier I had some pretty low moments.
Having said that, at around five and half/six months everything did suddenly become so much easier. Freddie had a much more predictable routine, he began to nap at roughly the same time, his sleep improved again, he was content to play on his own for longer periods and he seemed to learn something new everyday. Since then, it seems to get better and more enjoyable and I genuinely enjoy each day with him. He is my little pal, he’s hilarious, stubborn, mischievous, affectionate and intelligent all wrapped up in an adorable bundle of big blue eyes and tufts of curly, blonde hair. This post is for any other Mama’s out there who have felt the way I did, who have found the first few months really tough and wondered or are wondering when it gets easier. Here are seven things I love about my seven month old. View Full Post
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This is by far Freddie’s favourite teether. It’s small enough for little hands to grasp easily and he loves exploring the different parts with his gums. You can apply teething gel to the back of the Monkey’s head and this helps to get the gel to those hard to reach areas. It’s also easy to clean and I am now contemplating buying a back up!
These videos are so great. When Freddie was around three months he really loved watching the red, white and black versions which gave me a few minutes to tidy up or grab a cup of tea. As he got older he enjoyed the more colourful videos more and was totally mesmerised. We actually paid for the download so that we could use it during fussy car journeys without worrying about the wifi.
Freddie didn’t get much use out of this bouncer until we had to start weaning early at five months. He was too little for a high chair so this provided the perfect stop gap. It is super portable and folds up really easily.
The theme tune to this has been in my head for about the last two months but it’s Freddie’s favourite thing ever. Now obviously I don’t sit him in front of the television for hours on end but this ten minute show allows me to at least shovel some food down or try and make the house look halfway decent. It’s also been a lifesaver for many a car seat meltdown.
This may seem like an incredibly boring favourite but these are life changing! Honestly. No more faffing with the ones that stick to the window and then fall off pretty much constantly. These go over your window like a giant sock and hey presto. No more worrying about that little bit of sunlight creeping through and irritating your little one.
The Connecta Solar Weave is a very, very thin and light carrier designed for hot weather. The fabric blocks 95-99% of the suns harmful UVA and UVB rays and during our very random British heat wave this was the only carrier that was bearable to wear. View Full Post
Since having Freddie almost 6 months ago, I have felt very much like I’ve been on a particularly relentless emotional rollercoaster. Never before have I experienced such extremes, overwhelming happiness and then feelings of hopelessness and the worry, my god the worry. When the midwife first put Freddie on my chest, I remember tears streaming down my face and being unable to express anything other than ‘Is this my baby? This is my baby?’ I have never ever felt happiness and pride like I did that day. But almost as soon as he arrived the worry set in. Was he comfortable? Was he happy? What did he need? Was he in pain? Could I make him happy? Why was he crying? Why had he slept so long? Did I need to wake him? View Full Post