I want to preface this post by saying I am not a sleep consultant, this is not advice given by a professional. It is just what worked for my nap refuser. Everything I have read suggests that it is best to do any sleep training after six months so please bear that in mind too.
Getting Freddie to sleep during the day has been horrendously hard and it’s fair to say that at times, it has really affected me emotionally. Freddie had silent reflux so from around five weeks old all of his naps would either take place in a baby carrier on upright on his Dad or I. My hallway must be worn out from the many hours I have spent just walking back and forth every single day. This continued until nearly six months when he started to refuse to nap in the carrier too. I got no break at all during the day, physically or mentally and it took it’s toll. At six months Freddie would nap whilst breastfeeding as long as he was latched on. My nipples hurt and it started to effect our breastfeeding relationship because I was ‘touched out’ and finding it hard having no physical space. Occasionally he would get my hopes up and nap next to me on the bed but that was rare. I was sore, fed up and mentally exhausted. Freddie was permanently overtired and I felt like a failure. This post gives an bit more insight into some of the emotions I had Bad Days, Baby Blues & Being Honest. It was rough and I was insanely jealous when I saw pictures of other babies sleeping peacefully in their cots or their prams or even on the floor! I just couldn’t relate to that and I felt it must be something I was doing wrong. View Full Post
Ever since Freddie arrived like a whirlwind into our lives it has been a constant struggle to keep up. Without ever intentionally deciding to, I have followed his lead from the very beginning. He slept when he wanted to sleep, breastfed on demand and we worked around him.
Having a baby-led ‘routine’ was especially helpful as a first time mum with no real understanding of what my baby should be doing and when- or in indeed if he should be doing anything at a particular time at all. That being said, we naturally fell into a bedtime routine when Freddie was around seven/eight weeks old. He would no longer to settle to sleep in the evening downstairs with us and we felt he was probably wanting a quieter, darker environment. So gradually over the next few weeks we transitioned from him sleeping upstairs on his Daddy in the evenings to a proper bath/bedtime routine and being put down in his co-sleeper with his Dad or I in the room with him. To, at around five and a half months, going to sleep upstairs with the monitor on.
This worked really well for us and by around ten/eleven weeks Freddie started to fuss and get upset if he was not upstairs for his bedtime routine at the usual time. Daytimes were a different story though, apart from aiming to get him to nap after an hour of awake time (in the carrier or on me of course… this baby did not want to sleep on his own!) we had no routine to our days at all. I had a few failed attempts at around three/four months trying to implement the E.A.S.Y routine (it wasn’t at all easy in case you were wondering!) and then gave up. It surprised me how much this really didn’t both me considering I have always been a creature of habit and very much like a routine to most of my days.
However, at about five and a half months a routine started to emerge on it’s own. View Full Post
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This is by far Freddie’s favourite teether. It’s small enough for little hands to grasp easily and he loves exploring the different parts with his gums. You can apply teething gel to the back of the Monkey’s head and this helps to get the gel to those hard to reach areas. It’s also easy to clean and I am now contemplating buying a back up!
Hey Baby (Baby Sensory Videos)
These videos are so great. When Freddie was around three months he really loved watching the red, white and black versions which gave me a few minutes to tidy up or grab a cup of tea. As he got older he enjoyed the more colourful videos more and was totally mesmerised. We actually paid for the download so that we could use it during fussy car journeys without worrying about the wifi.
Chicco Pocket Relaxer
Freddie didn’t get much use out of this bouncer until we had to start weaning early at five months. He was too little for a high chair so this provided the perfect stop gap. It is super portable and folds up really easily.
The theme tune to this has been in my head for about the last two months but it’s Freddie’s favourite thing ever. Now obviously I don’t sit him in front of the television for hours on end but this ten minute show allows me to at least shovel some food down or try and make the house look halfway decent. It’s also been a lifesaver for many a car seat meltdown.
JellyBabaBaby Car Shades
This may seem like an incredibly boring favourite but these are life changing! Honestly. No more faffing with the ones that stick to the window and then fall off pretty much constantly. These go over your window like a giant sock and hey presto. No more worrying about that little bit of sunlight creeping through and irritating your little one.
Connecta Baby Carrier
The Connecta Solar Weave is a very, very thin and light carrier designed for hot weather. The fabric blocks 95-99% of the suns harmful UVA and UVB rays and during our very random British heat wave this was the only carrier that was bearable to wear. View Full Post